A Lady’s Guide To Buying Your First Sex Toy

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So you’re thinking it’s time to invest in a sex toy? How about toys?! Yes, we know, hush-hush, but really, why? Sex is oh so natural and oh so fun. Maybe you are single and looking for a way to bring some orgasmic self-care into your world. Or maybe you are looking for a way to add some kinky fun to your relationship. Regardless of your intention, if you haven’t purchased a sex toy before the idea could be a bit intimidating. However, fear not! Instead, read on for the most lady-like of guide to help you buy your first sex toy.

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Where Do I Begin?

Step one is to decide what kind of toy you would like to purchase. In order to know this, you must start with some self-reflection. Do you want to use it alone or with a partner? What kind of sexual sensations do you enjoy? Should it be waterproof? Portable?

Next, let the research begin. Look up sex toy brands and do some reading about the different types out there. Like pretty much anything you shop for on the internet these days, there are LOTS of choices. Remember not to get too bogged down. Pick a toy with good reviews and try it!

How Do I Know What I Want?

This is a real question! But the only way to really find out is to try. So, do your self-reflection, do your research, and then pick something to try. That being said, as a sex toy newbie, it is totally ok to take things slow. I.E. don’t start off with the kinkiest, biggest, or crazy-looking toy you find. Start with something that feels safe. Small and discreet perhaps? Then you can work your way into trying other things. Don’t forget, the sole purpose of this endeavor is to bring you happiness.

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What Features Should I Look For?

Once you narrow in on what type of toy you want, now it is time to look for the best version for you.

Body-safe materials are definitely worth paying attention to. Think silicone, glass, metal, non-porous materials. Non-porous means dirt and bacteria can’t get trapped in the toy, this is crucial to preventing infections.

While you may not want to blow your budget on your first toy, considering the quality and durability of the item you decide to purchase is definitely worth it in the long run.

What Should I Avoid?

When it comes to the type of sex toy there is nothing to “avoid”. However, it is absolutely a good idea to avoid anything with toxic or porous materials. Especially jellies or phthalates says Elle. After all, the plan is to get intimate with it.

Pay attention to where you choose to buy from too. When it comes to the world of sex on the internet it is a bit easier to land on an unprotected site. A good way to check the security is to see if they accept PayPal, this is a third-party safety net should anything go wrong. It is also a good idea to Google the site name with the word ‘reviews’ after it to see what comes up.

Where Should I Shop?

If you are feeling up for it a visit to your local sex shop may be a good place to start. This will allow you to see the toys in person. While this can be a great approach, for many, especially those new to the sex toy world, a visit to a sex shop seems unbearable. If this is the case not to worry as there are many great online stores out there. Just be sure to do the proper security checks, and if it looks at all sketchy just move on!

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Final Words of Advice

A great first sex toy is a bullet vibrator. This small, cost-effective choice focuses on clitoral stimulation, which by the way 70% of women require to climax.

Expect to spend around $100.

Don’t forget lube. A high-quality water based lubricant, preferably with natural ingredients, is your best bet.

And last but certainly not least, have fun!

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