A Guide to Talking About Sex with a New Partner
As the famous saying goes “communication is key,” and this couldn’t be truer than when you’re entering into a new relationship. Especially when it comes to talking about sex with a new partner.
Whilst the first stages of a relationship can be some of the most exciting, having the confidence to talk to your new partner about your likes and dislikes in the bedroom can often be quite a daunting thought, but it goes without saying, honesty, especially from the get-go, really is the best policy.
So, how do you approach the subject of S-E-X?
3 Keys to Talking About Sex With a New Partner
As with any topic deemed slightly taboo, making sure you’re approaching the conversation in a relaxed environment can make it flow much more easily, and what better place to instigate a conversation about sex with your partner than in the comfort of your own home.
That said, ensuring you’re not trying to raise the subject either pre or post-sex is very important here, as trying to have any deep and meaningful conversation with a partner can often be much less impactful when the physical act of sex enters the picture – it is rather distracting after all…
Rather than the bedroom, why not sit down somewhere cozy together like the living room, pour yourself a glass of wine, and open up the discussion with questions about what your other half enjoys when it comes to foreplay or any other bedroom antics.
By initially focussing the spotlight on your partner and what they truly desire, it shows them you’re eager to learn more about what makes them happy when it comes to sex, and hopefully means you’re both able to relax into the topic a little more easily too.
Once they’ve opened up and shared their intimate secrets with you, now it’s your turn! Don’t be afraid to confide in them about the things they can do that really turn you on. Just remember, by both chatting about your sexual preferences, lusts, and needs early in the relationship, you will both reap the rewards as your relationship and sex life progresses.
Remove the Taboo
Once you’re feeling a little bit more daring, why not start to introduce something new and exciting to help spice things up into the mix?
If you’re feeling particularly risqué, sex toys can be a particularly fun way to explore and get to know each other’s bodies in a much more intimate way. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the number of choices there is out there, don’t overthink or overcomplicate things by jumping in at the deep end from the get-go. Start simple, learn about what you actually enjoy together, and build up from there.
Spend some time together researching what you think you’d like to try and really get their imagination racing. Equally, be open about what you’d rather not try too. It’s important to set boundaries from the start to ensure both of you are able to really relax and immerse yourself fully in the experience.
For those who would rather take things at a slightly slower pace, why not offer to dress up for your partner? Shopping for some sexy red lingerie together in honor of the occasion could really help to get their juices flowing well before your night of passion, or perhaps a pair of handcuffs are more your style? The feelings that come along with the build-up and anticipation ahead of actually sleeping together can be extremely intense in the best way possible.
If you’re looking for more hints and tips about how to make your love life sexier, then why not introduce some sexy bedtime listening into your routine? Line up some sex-themed podcasts and keep a mental note of the things you’re both eager to try, whether that’s a new sex position, a role-play scenario, or even a fun new toy.
Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Feedback
Last but not least, and one of the most important factors in any relationship, keep on talking!
If you’ve been brave enough to start your relationship with an open and honest conversation, then keeping this line of communication open as you ramp up your love life means that it will only blossom further for you.
Don’t be afraid to invite feedback from your partner when it comes to sex and foreplay and encourage them to do the same too. This not only benefits what you get up to in the bedroom but will help to build a real level of trust between the two of you, which in turn opens up the scope for exciting new experiences you can enjoy together.